Recently there been some outrage that men are choking women.
Lets be frank, the outrage is that it is being done women and girls outside the sex trade.
There is no shock or horror when every day and night the prostituted are choked.
Hell, that is just the tip of the iceberg.
The prostituted are anally raped, the prostituted are smothered, the prostituted are waterboarded, the prostituted are gang-raped – and the prostituted are constantly choked.
But that is non-news – that is reframed as part of the job, nothing more nothing less.
But when decent women are choked by men who seemed normal – then we suddenly care.
I hate all Male violence – but I also hate the hypocrisy of those who say they are against this violence.
For it has become the norm to speak this violence when it done to the non-prostituted females – while having a deadly silence about the violence in all the sex trade.
This is clear in the lack of recording of deaths of the prostituted – especially when it is murder.
These deaths are made to disappear, these missing women are made of no importance.
Yes, the sex trade is skilled at making the prostituted disappear – but that is partly because they know many view these women and girls are not fully human, so not worth caring about.
All the time we record deaths of women from domestic violence. We give them some dignity and often speak to their lives.
But we allow the sex trade and punters to throw away the prostituted – leaving them nameless, without a life outside the role of the whore, and still condemning them in death.
It is highly likely that more prostituted women and girls are murdered than females in domestic violence.
Where is the outrage? When do you see feminists marching for prostituted women?
If the the murdered prostituted women and girls are remembered, it is too often a footnote to the more important deaths of females.
The prostituted are stripped of their humanity, as they are told not to grieve, not to have fury at wasted lived and public indifference.
One day, all those lost lives will be remembered and somehow the ghosts of the prostituted will force justice for being forgotten.
But back to choking, that is a common thing in most prostitution.
I was choked more times than my mind can hold.
I still, almost 40 to 30 years later, have major issues with my throat. I choke too often, it is my norm.
Choking in prostitution is a game, often bringing the prostitute close to death or knocking her unconscious.
This destroyed parts of her brain, mainly coz of lack of oxygen.
I, for instance, have huge gaps in my memory and still disassociate.
l write this to say there is nothing new about choking women, it is as old as the sex trade.
It will only end when we see the prostituted as fully human, and see violence done to them as an outrage.