I am not sure whether to write this post, but I am damned sick of being told I do not have understanding of johns. That all I do is condemn them and make them into monsters.
Sorry, from this whore’s point of view, they were never monsters – that would let them off the hook – they were very ordinary men who know they could whatever they wanted to the prostituted women and girl.
To say they were evil, to say they were monsters, to say they were mad – all that is wrong and very convenient.
It is framed as if those johns were exception to the rule – that violence and degradation is just the bad luck of the individual whore.
That lets everyone off the hook.
It lets the sex trade run business as usual, spreading the lie that any violence that becomes public, it is just the fault of some mad man or a prostituted woman or girl making bad choices.
The sex trade makes huge profit in providing sadistic sex and the acting out of porn-dream to millions of ordinary men.
It does by keeping it hidden from the public view.
The sex trade encourages ordinary men to let free their violence and hate on prostituted women and girls – hell, you can charge more for “extras” or men staying longer with the “girls”.
It is a business after all, and a business must make a profit.
It lets the supporters of the sex trade off the hook.
Say it is just a few mad men, just violence out of control, only happens coz of drugs, trafficked women and girls or under-aged prostitutes.
Say it ok if it is hidden from view in brothels, that it should be taxed, should be unionised. Controlled and legalise prostitution, then everything will fine and dandy.
Say it just stigma of the label “prostitute” that is the problem, so give the label “sex worker”, and then by magic they are empowered and liberated women.
Say all this, whilst underneath know you would not want to be in the skin of the prostituted woman.
But, it really lets johns off the hook.
Most johns will not consider themselves like those mad, violent johns – they are just ordinary men who have brought the prostitute, and she is his property as long as his money last.
I would say the worse thing of being prostituted – is that most johns think buying a prostitute is no big deal. It just like buying a lager or a kebab – just part of male entertainment.
He is entitled to any entertainment he desire.
The fact it is another human he is buying is not an issue.
For through everything he sees, reads, hears and is his background noise – the prostitute is not a full human being, she is just a living porn-doll for his pleasure.
For most johns, using a prostitute is just masturbating into a living person.
But, the sex trade give the john permission to do more than just masturbation. He is given permission to act all his hate, frustration, and rage at women onto the prostitute.
This mean that violence is the norm in prostitution, and much of this violence is extreme and some of the sickest hard-core porn you can imagine.
Hell, the sex trade gets it profit in allowing such extreme violence that it will not be believed that men are capable of such acts.
So it is keep hidden in plain view.
The frightening thing to know as a prostitute who has lived inside that violence and hate – is that the johns who do that destruction were just ordinary men.
I am sure they watch TV, are good at their work, friendly to their neighbours, good to their families. I am sure they have many interests and views that I may agree with.
Only, I really don’t give a shit.
I think it must expose that prostituted women and girls are raped, sexually tortured and murdered by men who are invisible because they are just ordinary.
It is that being ordinary that scares me.
It is ordinary to have built a society that makes it ok for men to invent a class of women and girls named the prostitute – invent her to pour out all their fury, hate and frustration of women.
It is ordinary to call rape the job of the prostitute, it is ordinary to name beating up a prostitute rough sex or an extra.
It is ordinary to be not care about the murders of prostituted women and girls, it is just the risk of the job.
It is ordinary to pretend not to see street-based prostituted women and girls.
It is ordinary to blame the prostitute for spreading sexual diseases – never say a small point that it the men not using protection or fucking in a dangerous manner.
It is ordinary to big up sleeping with prostitutes, one way of men losing virginity, a great end to a stag-do, just end of another night out, celebrate your team winning or make you better if they lose.
It is ordinary to think it must just sad men that use prostitutes, men who need “servicing”. It is a social service prostitutes do.
It is ordinary to frame high-class prostitutes as happy, with high sex-drive, just doing it to go to college. So she cannot be beaten or raped, it always her choice.
I can go on and on and on.
Prostitution is made ordinary so no john need feel guilt.
He does not rape, he does not batter, he does not torture, he could not murder – but for me and millions of prostituted women and girls it felt like he did.
He is no mad man – he just an ordinary bloke.
That is what should terrify everyone.