I am going to the London Stop Porn Culture conference this weekend, and I will try to focus through the heart of my trauma.
In this post, I want to look at the many excuses made for the continuing of the sex trade. All excuses start from not allowing that the prostituted class can be fully human.
That barring from humanity is how all the sex trade works, so as you make endless excuses know you are making conditions for slavery, conditions for the disappearances or deaths of too many of the prostituted.
If you an excuse to make the sex trade normal, you have blood on your hands.
I write this for I am sick and tired of hearing apparently good people saying prostitution or porn is not that bad – only problem is people like me ruining the fun of others.
So you begin your excuses by lying about who people like me are.
We are moralistic, we hate sex, we are too sheltered, we are mentally damaged, we have no sense of humour, we want the police in the bedroom.
Lordy, we are everything that can be ridicule or made small – anything not to listen and hear our words.
The excuses are made so you or your friends have full access to the sex trade preferably as private as possible.
It is this mentality that against all logic and the reality of male violence works, that pushes for indoors prostitution in the false claim that it safer that street-based prostitution.
No aspect of prostitution is safe, or can be safe enough to be allowed to continue.
Behind closed inside brothels, in flats and hotel rooms, in sex clubs, in the homes of the prostituted – violence continue without interference, without access to help, without the knowledge that any cares.
No, prostitution behind closed doors is open to torture, to gang-rapes, to murder – it is too common that the prostituted just disappear from indoors prostitution.
So dream on if you think escorting, brothel work, being in a sauna, being girlfriend material is safe, or surrounded by managers who care about your welfare as a prostitute.
And to any punter who may be reading this, saying I’m the good guy for using indoors prostitution – I would never ever exploit any prostitute I went with.
You are exploiting by buying her as your masturbatory goods, you are exploiting by even imaging you have the right to buy another human just so you can have an orgasm.
I know of no punter who is bother that a prostitute is injured, bother if she may be trafficked or not, bother if she is under-aged, bother if she out of it on drugs, bother if it clear she being intimidated by a pimp.
Most punters love the thrill that the prostituted is being exploited, love the power of being yet more poison to rip out her humanity.
Punters see no human, they see a living sex doll that has no rights to consent or freedom to be fully alive.
The only time I can imagine a punter caring about the prostitute as a human is if he about to be arrested.
Most punters see no crime in raping, torturing and murdering the prostituted – it just a small event that they can move away from and forget.
That is what you are allowing when you make the sex trade normal.
The excuses come from a place of refusal to have even the smallest piece of empathy for the prostituted.
This happens all the time everywhere – those outside the prostituted class that see we are fully human are rare and need to be hold onto for they are part of the road to freedom.
I am sick and tired of being in an environment of so-called allies who can speak openly about all forms of male violence against women and children – but speak tongue-tied when talking to the conditions of prostitution and porn.
Your constant excuse is it too terrible to be spoken of – but you speak to the reality of child rape, of mass rapes in war-zones, of domestic violence, and many other ways men torture women and children.
But when speaking on the sex trade – it is spoken with great detachment and wanting “proven” facts, it is spoken by saying there must two sides, it is wrapped in the language of sex work.
You language become more and more distant – anything not to see that the prostitute is a human being.
Is it that you truly believe that there are two sides to prostitution and porn – but not two sides to child rape, not two sides to domestic violence?
Why do cling on to the fantasy that some of the prostituted had free choice and so must be happy.
Do you not see most women inside domestic violence would say they chose to live with the person who abuses them?
That the majority of rapes are done by men who built a relationship with their victim.
Do you think it is normal for women and girls outside the sex trade to self-blame for the male violence done to them?
Yet you make the choice not to judge those women and girls, or think it is true that are to blame.
But every day in most environments, the prostituted class are taken at their word if they say what you want to hear – that is they are empowered and happy – and ignore if they say it is hell.
That choice to not listen is part of the genocide of the prostituted class.
I will end here for it too hard for my grieving soul to write anymore.